May 8th, 2012 Posted in NCAA basketball betting | No Comments »
4 days ago my friend called me up and was in a real jam and asked me if i could lend him a few hundred dollars. I said that i recently made a big payment to one of my credit cards . Plus he still owed money from over a month ago when I spotted him on the opening day mets game that he has made no effort to pay back so i told him i couldnt do it.
he told me he lost alot all his money at the track and that he just needed a few hundred to hold him down. Since this was the day before the mayweather vs cotto match and i know his history of making bets, i told him "you better not bet on that fight tomorrow!!" and he said that he couldnt because he owed his bookie money.
Well yesterday He called me up and pretty much was pleading with me for over an hour to give him $200 to pay a portion of the money he owes the bookie because i was his last hope and he didnt want to ask his parents. this time he told me the entire story in that he made a bet on 2 playoff basketball games and lost both for $200. He got paid on friday and spent his entire check on the track and lost everything. and then He told me that he bet $400 on Cotto this past weekend and lost that too! Even after i told him not to he dug himself even further!
the thing that really made me mad was that He actually had to the money to pay off the bookie and gambled it all away and i told him if he never went to the track then we wouldnt be having this conversation.
I bacially told him that the timing wasnt right and that if i helped him then i would be putting myself in a jam since i have a bill to pay next week. I really wanted to help him and at one point he actually said "come on man, please dont make me cry on the phone right now" , but certainly not at the expense of my own well being. Should i feel guilty for not lending him at least something? Is there anything that I can do to help this guys gambling problem because i dont know why his family hasnt seriously done anything by now since they know he has a problem? He has a kid and the more he tells me things like this i lose more and more respect for him everyday.
In this case, lending your friend money to support his gambling habit is probably the worst thing you can do for him since he’s proven that he’ll simply use it for more gambling, which is getting him further into debt. Since you seem to be able to have good conversations with him, you might want to suggest that he contact Gamblers Anonymous (US) or GamCare (UK) for help getting his gambling under control. Oh, I know he probably won’t go, at least not the first time you suggest it. But every time he asks you for money, tell him to contact them and refuse to give him money.
get him a shrink
This is called co dependency. Imagine if he was a drug addict and you were lending him money to buy drugs. Its the same thing. Cut him off completely and if necessary end this relationship. He only views you as an ATM machine and he nothing will change until he admits he has a problem. I guarantee you he will keep asking for money.
Do not feel guilty. You would not buy an alcoholic a drink. He has a addiction. They may have tried. Addictions are very hard and some times one mans bottom is deeper than another See if you can get a paper from Gamblers Anonomous and put it in his mailbox
First, this man bet against the now 47-0 Floyd Mayweather?? So obviously he’s a bad gambler in addition to being addicted to gambling.Also YOU SHOULD NOT FEEL BAD. At all. If you relented and helped him out financially at all, you would prove yourself as his crutch. He has a problem. Worse than that he has a kid to provide for! To help this man, if you truly value his friendship, accompany him to his first few Gamblers Anonymous meetings. Make sure he’s sincere. And above all remember, you did not tell him to bet his money. Therefore it is not your responsibility to give him anything but support as a friend. Time and patience will have to be his sword and shield in order for him to break his cycle and stay off of it. The meetings work, they wouldn’t still be around if they didn’t. Good luck, and may the force be with your pimphand. Church
Your friend needs to see a special doctor about his gambling problem